April262012

Men get to feel hornier because they’re socially supported in this. The whole of society is geared toward titillating men and discouraging female sexual desire. It’s inherent to the Nice Guy® complaint, where men are entitled to feel physical attraction, but a woman who wants more than “nice” is shallow. It’s evident in the way men and women dress, with women always mindful to wear stuff that makes them sexually attractive, whereas men have the opposite problem, and have to avoid being too sexualized lest they seem feminine. Naked women are draped over every inch of public space, and the internet is full of visually interesting porn for men, but our society barely can imagine what it would be like to try to attract a female eye.. Men seem hornier in no small part because their sexuality is celebrated and codified. It’s easy for men to know right away how to be sexual, whereas women are still largely expected to figure it out for themselves—-and even that’s a recent invention, because pre-feminism, women were mostly just expected to do what men wanted.

But even with the small amount of freedom we have, it’s worth noting that a 30-year-old woman who admitted obliquely to having had non-procreative sex in Congress created a month long, nationwide scandal. Until that kind of pressure disappears completely, we can’t even begin to measure what the “natural”, unadulterated female sexuality would look like, and how it would compare to the celebrated and constantly titillated male sexuality.

Either way, stop blaming sex for misogyny. If all men wanted was women to fuck them more, the English language wouldn’t even have the word “slut” in it.

Amanda Marcotte, Misogyny isn’t caused by male horninesson David Wong’s article 5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women (via ellielamothe)

YAY for people writing rebuttals to Wong’s article.

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March82012
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International Slutty Women’s Day: A Story in GIFs
Posted by Ann on Thu, 03/08/2012 - 03:28

The year was 2012. Women were basically just hanging out.
You know, doing lady stuff. 
We’d gotten used to the fact that, for decades, people have been trying to tell us what to do.
That we should pay attention to our ticking biological clocks, lest we become dried-up old spinsters. 
That we should/shouldn’t/should settle and marry a dude who sucks. 

That we’re a drag on society if we choose to have babies without marrying, but that abortion is objectively wrong (well, except in cases when some dudes say it isn’t), so we can’t choose if and when and how to have one. You know, for our own protection.

That we were asking for it.

This is just an unending onslaught of bullshit! It is so tired. I mean, how many times do we have to remind you to get your laws—and sometimes your actual hands—off our bodies?

And now, the latest: that we’re sluts if we use birth control?!

Let’s reiterate: Now we’re sluts if we don’t have abortions? Apparently this term applies to anyone with a
Wait, what?


This makes us want to hurl.

Or maybe just drink copious amounts of boxed wine.

But the thing is, we’re pretty used to fighting these battles. We see your side-eye when we buy Plan B.

We’ve driven our friends across state lines so they can get an abortion without your stupid 24-hour waiting period.

We’ve footed the bill for not only our own birth control pills, but for the backup box of condoms. Now you want to make it even harder to get contraception? We are over it. 

In case you haven’t noticed, you are old and increasingly politically irrelevant.

So please, COME AT US, BROS.

Let’s fight this one out.

Because women (and people who respect women’s autonomy) are a pretty signifiant portion of the population.

Seriously. And have a very happy International Women’s Day.



This is fucking epic

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International Slutty Women’s Day: A Story in GIFs

Posted by Ann on Thu, 03/08/2012 - 03:28

The year was 2012. Women were basically just hanging out.

You know, doing lady stuff.

We’d gotten used to the fact that, for decades, people have been trying to tell us what to do.

That we should pay attention to our ticking biological clocks, lest we become dried-up old spinsters.

That we should/shouldn’t/should settle and marry a dude who sucks. 

That we’re a drag on society if we choose to have babies without marrying, but that abortion is objectively wrong (well, except in cases when some dudes say it isn’t), so we can’t choose if and when and how to have one. You know, for our own protection.

That we were asking for it.

This is just an unending onslaught of bullshit! It is so tired. I mean, how many times do we have to remind you to get your laws—and sometimes your actual hands—off our bodies?

And now, the latest: that we’re sluts if we use birth control?!

Let’s reiterate: Now we’re sluts if we don’t have abortions? Apparently this term applies to anyone with a

Wait, what?

This makes us want to hurl.

Or maybe just drink copious amounts of boxed wine.

But the thing is, we’re pretty used to fighting these battles. We see your side-eye when we buy Plan B.

We’ve driven our friends across state lines so they can get an abortion without your stupid 24-hour waiting period.

We’ve footed the bill for not only our own birth control pills, but for the backup box of condoms. Now you want to make it even harder to get contraception? We are over it. 

In case you haven’t noticed, you are old and increasingly politically irrelevant.

So please, COME AT US, BROS.

Let’s fight this one out.

Because women (and people who respect women’s autonomy) are a pretty signifiant portion of the population.

Seriously. And have a very happy International Women’s Day.

This is fucking epic

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